I hear from so many people “my partner doesn’t make me happy anymore.” I would submit that your partner never “made” you happy and no partner can “make” you unhappy.
I know, I know, don’t send me hate mail telling me how awful your partner is, and how terribly they treat you. I get it, I’ve been there in past relationships. But ultimately, it is you choosing to stay in the relationship even when you are suffering or being mistreated. It is ultimately you who has not set clear boundaries for being mistreated and consequences for not honoring your boundaries.
This is not to say that I don’t have deep deep compassion for anyone who finds themselves in such a situation. I sincerely do, but I also wholeheartedly believe in every person’s ability to change their situation for the better if they choose and decide to do so. To be clear I am not talking about abusive relationships. Abuse is a very serious issue and if you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help form friends, family, law enforcement if necessary, and please get to safety.
You are responsible for making yourself happy. Now, before you start blaming yourself if you are unhappy, I invite you to take radical responsibility for your life and not use your partner or lack of one, your kids, your current state of health, other people or any external circumstances as an excuse to be unhappy, feel unloved, or be miserable. The most important relationship you can cultivate is with yourself.
I invite you to start take the first step in getting the life you desire by booking a free Discovery Call with me today. Don’t look up a year from now and blame yourself for not having done it.