Better orgasms. Not something most of us would refuse.
One of my favorite things as a sex coach is teaching people to enjoy better and more frequent orgasms.
Heck yeah! Now we’re talking!
Most people if they are able to achieve orgasm at all have learned to achieve a rather limited ‘crotch sneeze’ genital focused orgasm that lasts a few seconds at best. Some people have learned to achieve orgasm only in specific ways, for example using a vibrator or other sex toy, a shower head, being alone or in a certain position.
Don’t get me wrong all that is great, but it is possible to experience orgasms from a variety of experiences. It is possible for people of all genders to experience multiple orgasms and full-body orgasms.
Where did most of us learn about sex?
Some scary sex ed class? Our peers? Parents? Our early sex partners? Magazines showing us 100 new sex positions, the latest sex gizmos or 50 ways to blow their mind? Porn? (Look, porn is a lot of things, but a great sex educator it is not).
Did you know that orgasms can come from stimulating literally any part of the body? Did you know that touch is not even required to achieve orgasm? Did you know that many times people have an orgasm based on brain scans and other physiologic measurements but fail to register it as an orgasm because they are not tuned into the body? Did you know that the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, is supplied by 4 major nerves in the pelvis, and is the only organ whose sole function is pleasure?
Take that in!
Did you know that some people have learned to have orgasms using just their minds, with music, certain smells, food, or whenever they see certain number combinations on license plates? Don’t judge, it makes driving in traffic more pleasant.
Anyone can train to have better orgasms, to have them more easily and reliably with a partner, and to have them during circumstances they find challenging.
Point is, we can all learn this stuff, it’s not something you’re either born with or you aren’t. I still learning at 52, and I’ve taught people well into their 60s using some of the best methods backed by science. I’m a neuroscience nerd to my core and I think science should be used for good not evil.
Having better orgasms can reduce anxiety, depression and stress. Having more frequent orgasms can help you feel more energized, more confident, more deeply connected and less resentful of your partner. They have been proven to improve sleep, alleviate menopausal symptoms, boost immune function, even improve blood pressure.
Wait, am I really trying to sell the benefits of orgasms?
Please reach out to me if it is more pleasure you seek.
Be well!
Renée